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BOOKS 

Transgender 101:  Simple Guide to A Complex Issue, Nicholas Teich   Written by a social worker, popular educator, and member of the transgender community, this well-rounded resource combines an accessible portrait of transgenderism with a rich history of transgender life and its unique experiences of discrimination..

Mom, I need to be a Girl: Just Evelyn. A wonderful story of one family’s journey with their teenage child’s transition from male to female. Available online at www.amazon.com.

Finding the Real Me: Edited by Tracie O’Keefe and Katrina Fox A compilation of stories by transgenders about their accepting, transitioning, and coming out process

TransgenderEmergence: Arlene Istar Lev, CSW-R, CASAC. An outstanding book of historical and the most current guidelines for addressing the needs of all gender-variant people, including transgendered children and youth.

Made in God’s Image: Ann Thompson Cook and Dumbarton United Methodist Church “An exceptional resource for people of faith who want to open their hearts to a wider discussion of gender issues.”

Becoming a Visible Man: Jamison Green. There are far fewer books about female-to- male (FtM) transition than there are about male-to-female (MtF). When a leading activist and advocate for FtM presents his autobiography, it instantly becomes an important work. When it is well written and insightful, it becomes a must-have book for anyone interested in transsexual experience and history. Green’s book exceeds these standards.

Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman. Leslie Feinberg. This book (published 1996), is often recommended to newcomers to the transgender phenomenon; the historical information is quite valuable. Feinberg starts with his own history, showing how he was led to investigate the history of transsexualism while working with the Workers World Party. His studies led to investigation of transgender throughout history. Avoiding the overall conflict about the definitions of various “levels” of transgender, Feinberg uses transgender in his book as an umbrella term for all persons who challenge the socially acceptable or cultural boundaries of sex and gender. All those who fall under this definition have experienced oppression, and representatives of all have fought back.

Parrotfish: Ellen Wittlinger. Parrotfish is a peek into the life of one high-school student as he struggles with the pressures of bullying, isolation and the unknown. Grady was born a girl. When he announced that he was actually a boy, his mother was devastated, his sister was horrified, and his father was…. well, at least his father was trying to be understanding. Grady’s best friend since childhood, Eve, refuses to even look at him in school. She becomes part of the gang of girls whose primary reason for living is to torture Grady. Grady feels totally alienated and alone.

Luna: Julie Ann Peters Here is a wonderful book for teens  (targeted for 15 and older) written from the perspective of Regan, a female high school sophomore. Her brother Liam, a brilliant senior, can’t stand the person he is during the day. His true self, Luna, reveals herself only at night. For years, Liam has transformed himself into the beautiful girl he longs to be with help from his sister’s clothes and makeup in the secrecy of their basement bedrooms. Now everything is about to change. Luna is preparing to emerge from her cocoon.

 My Princess Boy: Cheryl Kilodavis. Dyson loves pink, sparkly things. Sometimes he wears dresses. Sometimes he wears jeans. He likes to wear his princess tiara, even when climbing trees. He’s a Princess Boy. Inspired by the author’s son, and by her own initial struggles to understand, this is a heart-warming book about unconditional love and one remarkable family. It is also a call for tolerance and an end to bullying and judgments. The world is a brighter place when we accept everyone for who they are.

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Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity by Julia Serano

Gender Outlaws by Kate Bornstein
Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergma

Transgender History by Susan Stryker

Family Equality Council  The Family Equality Council works to ensure equality for LGBT families by building community, changing hearts and minds, and advancing social justice for all families.

FTMInternational   Female to male transgender site. Books, news, etc.

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force  Inclusive of bisexual and transgender. Excellent current news site.

Gender Spectrum:  Excellent West Coast web site for gender variant children and their families. Owned and operated by therapist Stephanie Brill.

National Transgender Advocacy Coalition (NTAC) Leading legal and political action site. The National Transgender Advocacy Coalition works proactively to reform societal attitudes and the law to achieve equal rights for the transgendered and other gender diverse individuals.

National Transgender Law Institute Transgender legal affairs activist site. Weekly announcements of changes in state or federal law affecting trans people. Searchable database on college and employer transgender policies, hate crime laws.

PFLAG Transgender Network  Support organization specifically for transgenders, their families and friends. Special Affiliate chapter of Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG)

Therapist Resource Site for North America  Lists therapists with experience dealing with transgender issues, sorted by state or province, then by city.

Transcending Anatomy: a guide to bodies and sexuality for partners of trans people

Injustice at Every Turn: A Report from the National Transgender Discrimination Survey

Transitions of the heart:  Stories of Love, Strugle and Acceptnace by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children Paperback   Transitions of the Heart is the first collection to ever invite mothers of transgender and gender variant children of all ages to tell their own stories about their child’s gender transition

The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals Paperback by Stephanie A. Brill  The Transgender Child is the first of its kind – a thoughtful manual for parents and caregivers of transgender children, written by one of our country’s most respected gender therapists and an experienced researcher and author of books related to the GLBT community and gender variance. Detailed, up-to-date, and easy to read, this book should be the prime resource for parents of transgender children and teens, and anyone who deals with them

Mom, I Need to be a Girl: Just Evelyn A wonderful story of one family’s journey with their teenage child’s transition from male to female.

Always My Child: Kevin Jennings, Executive Director of GLSEN and Pat Shapiro, MSW. A superb book on dealing with GLBTQ children, especially during the coming out process. Many of the principles apply to dealing with ALL children.

Parrotfish: Ellen Wittlinger. Parrotfish is a peek into the life of one high-school student as he struggles with the pressures of bullying, isolation and the unknown. Grady was born a girl. When he announced that he was actually a boy, his mother was devastated, his sister was horrified, and his father was…. well, at least his father was trying to be understanding. Grady’s best friend since childhood, Eve, refuses to even look at him in school. She becomes part of the gang of girls whose primary reason for living is to torture Grady. Grady feels totally alienated and alone. Available online at https://www.Amazon.com

My Princess Boy: Cheryl Kilodavis. Dyson loves pink, sparkly things. Sometimes he wears dresses. Sometimes he wears jeans. He likes to wear his princess tiara, even when climbing trees. He’s a Princess Boy. Inspired by the author’s son, and by her own initial struggles to understand, this is a heart-warming book about unconditional love and one remarkable family. It is also a call for tolerance and an end to bullying and judgments. The world is a brighter place when we accept everyone for who they are

Gender Born, Gender Made: Diane Ehrensaft, PHD. As it turns out, Dr. Ehrensaft shared our experience of raising a gender-non-conforming kid without a roadmap. Her son was a pink boy. She writes of the benefit, or curse, of her psychoanalytic education in the books “Relearning Gender,” chapter. While many of us were learning what little was truly known about gender development, Ehrensaft was busy unlearning what she thought she knew based on the bizarre arm-chair ‘science’ of Sigmund Freud and his ilk.

WEBSITES

Family Equality Council 
The Family Equality Council works to ensure equality for LGBT families by building community, changing hearts and minds, and advancing social justice for all families.

Families Like Mine  Site for children of GBLT parents. Excellent

Gender Spectrum:  Excellent West Coast web site for gender variant children and their families. Owned and operated by therapist Stephanie Brill.

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PFLAG Transgender Network  Support organization specifically for transgenders, their families and friends. Special Affiliate chapter of Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG)

PFLAG  Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. Support organization for family members and friends of all GLBT individuals. Excellent support for families coming out and recognizing their gay, lesbian, or transgender children or siblings.

Straight Spouse Network  International support network for current and former spouses of gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender

Toilet Training: a documentary by Tara Mateik and the Sylvia Rivera Law Project This is about trans* issues and gendered bathrooms.

Trans Youth Family Allies https://www.imatyfa.org/index.php TransYouth Family Advocates is a coalition of parents, friends and caring adults dedicated to educating and raising public awareness about the medical and cultural challenges faced by children with gender variant and gender questioning identities and the families who love them..

TransFamily of Cleveland  Excellent Family support site. Newsletter, couples, spouses, parents, and youth discussion elists. Hundreds of members from all over the world.

Injustice at Every Turn: A Report from the National Transgender

TransGeneration (TV Show, Logo) This is a TV show about trans* people who are in college.

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