As an Imago Certified therapist since 2005, a Clinical Sexologist since 2012, and as a Gottman Trained therapist in 2014, I have enjoyed working with all varieties of couples (lesbian, mixed orientation marriages, heterosexual, gay) who present with a wide variety of concerns.
There are five major categories of relationship counseling (which I provide both in office and ON-LINE):
1. Premarital or marriage preparation counseling – getting it right, before tying the knot.
2. Couples counseling for any of the reasons (and more) listed below – staying on track
3. Affair recovery or infidelity or other traumatic – repairing serious relationship wounds
WHAT ARE COMMON ISSUES YOU ADDRESS IN COUPLES COUNSELING?
infidelity, emotional affairs, and outside attractions that affect the relationship
conflicts regarding whether or not to have an open relationship or polyamorous relationship
differing sex drives/libidos
loss of sexual desire for one’s partner
difficulty with communication
resentment, anger, and “old issues” that were never addressed and continue to linger
questions about wether or not to continue the relationship
deciding whether or not to have a baby
long-distance relationship issues, and adjustments when united in one city
feelings of control, power discrepancies in relationship, and feeling under appreciated/frustrated
pre-marital counseling to strengthen the relationship before marriage/commitment
relationship dissolution, negotiating a break-up with compassion and kindness
HOW LONG DO SESSIONS LAST?
A typical couples session is 85 minutes ($205), though if your budget does not allow for this, you can opt for a 50 minute session ($130). A combination of processing feelings, exercising new skills and tools taught in the session, and a lot of education are provided in sessions, and homework is not uncommon, which allows you to maximize the investment you are making in your relationship.
HOW OFTEN SHOULD WE MEET?
It is ideal to schedule therapy sessions at least every two weeks (no further apart) when you begin. Typically, after roughly four to six sessions (two to three months) you will have gained enough new information and skills to begin lessening the frequency of your sessions. Some couples prefer to come weekly and do so for many months. Some prefer to come monthly and only come a few times. Your experience and needs will depend entirely on the set of issues you bring to counseling, as well as your sense of urgency to resolve your concerns.
There is no “right” way to do couples counseling. Come on in and we can sort it out together. Or, if you are interested in the most immediate gratification, you may be a good candidate to participate in a Couple’s Weekend. You can read more about that he