On a sunny Friday afternoon, Amelia arrived ten minutes before her partner, Lucy, for their lesbian relationship coaching session.

While waiting for Lucy, Amelia tells me, “I think I’m falling out of love with Lucy.” She explains, “there’s no spark, no excitement left.” Then came the familiar words I’ve heard a hundred times before… “She feels more like a friend than a lover.”

And the band begins to play… You never close your eyes anymore when I kiss your lips… You’ve lost that lovin’ feeling, whoa, that lovin’ feeling…”

Lesbians in love are giving and receiving machines. Imagine your relationship is a merry-go-round, and the circular motion is what generates love as you take turns spinning, then riding, spinning (giving), then riding (receiving)

Lesbians in love know how to give and receive.

Love is an experience, something you generate.  It is the result of an action. Hence the term “Making Love!”

The amount of love you feel equals the love you give and receive. Love is much more than a feeling. Love is the outcome of doing something loving. To express love, you must first possess love. You’ve all heard the old saying, “You must love yourself before you can love another.” To give anything, you must have it to give.

When you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling, chances are you’ve lost sight of your lovin’ behavior!

I asked Amelia, “When was the last time you behaved toward Lucy like a lover; the last time you interacted with her in a loving, passionate way?” “Hmmm,” she replied, “But I don’t FEEL loving, so how am I supposed to BE loving?”

Then Amelia asks, “Wouldn’t I be lying if I do loving things while questioning if I’m in love?”
I ask, “Is it a lie to work out if you don’t FEEL like exercising?” Quickly she replies, “If I waited until I wanted to work out, I might never work out!”

With a heavy sigh, she says, “Okay, I get where you’re going with this; to feel loving, I must be loving, not the other way around.”