SPACE FOR THE FIRST 20 WOMEN
This is a FREE event, unlike others. We are asking for volunteers to help us test our new dating app that is in beta mode. If you would like to experience what speed dating online is like, join us this Saturday for Free!
HOW IS THE DATING LINE-UP CREATED?
Your matches will be made according to the preferences you indicate for age and gender expression. There will be structured lesbian speed dating as well as unstructured socializing time. This will allow you to meet other women who do not fall within your preferred dating criteria, but might make great friends!
AM I WELCOME IF I AM BISEXUAL, TRANS, NON-BINARY OR POLY?
Yes! Our goal is to attract a diverse group of women of all ages so we can provide a wide variety of people with whom you can meet and interact. We do not inquire about your sexual orientation or your gender identity beyond the requirement that you self-identify as a woman and you have romantic interests in women. We do ask that you are available, whether that means single or poly.
It is up to you to share what you wish to beyond the basic expectation that all of the women who attend: 1) self-identify as women; 2) are attracted romantically to women; and 3) identify as single or available.
HOW MANY SPEED DATES WILL I HAVE?
This depends on two variables. One, how open you are to a wide range of ages and gender expression; and two, how open other participants are to a wide range of ages and gender expression.
We will match you with the best ten dates we can. This means, if you indicate interest in a narrow age range, and only one specific gender expression, we will match you with your preferred women first. If there are not ten women who meet this criteria, we will pair you with the next best matches to reach a total of 10 dates.
WHAT IF MY EX OR SOMEONE I DO NOT WISH TO BE PAIRED WITH IS ALSO ATTENDING?
Don’t fret. We understand the desire to avoid awkward pairings. The registration form has a space to indicate up to 8 women who you request we NOT pair you with. We will work hard to help you avoid any uncomfortable dates!
WHAT IF I SIGN UP AND CAN’T MAKE IT?
Your registration is non-refundable. If you wish to sell your seat to another single lesbian, you are welcome to do so. Please inform us if you do, so we can change the name on the dating line-up. If you sell your seat to someone less than a week prior to the event, it is likely she will be lined up with dates that match your preferences, not hers.
HOW DO WE EXPRESS INTEREST IN EACH OTHER?
After you complete your registration, you will receive a confirmation email. (If you don’t see it, be sure to check your spam email). In this email, you will find a Confirmation Code, which is how you will access your account on our dating app. More information will be provided to you about how to set up your app after you have registered.
The app will provide you with a list of all 10 (or more) dates that you have lined up for the event.
After each date, you will have the option to check your interest in her according to the following:
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potential romance friendship no chemistry
For each woman that you indicate ANY interest in (friendship or more) who has also expressed ANY interest in you (friendship or more), we will provide you with one another’s contact information.
WHAT IF I AM INTERESTED IN A FRIENDSHIP WITH HER, BUT NOT ROMANCE?
For each woman that you indicate ANY interest in (friendship or more) who has also expressed ANY interest in you (friendship or more), we will provide you with one another’s contact information. This information will be available on your dating app shortly after the event ends.
If you indicate friendship, and she indicates romanceship, we will still connect you, and indicate a match for friendship (it will not be revealed that you expressed romantic interest if she did not).
WHAT IF I’M SUPER DUPER SHY?
Because the dates are so short (four to five minutes), there is limited time for conversation. Even our shyest participants have commented on how quickly the dates go! You can prepare for the event by coming up with 2-3 open-ended questions, such as: “Tell me about yourself?” Or, “How do you like to spend your free time?” Or, “How do you feel about forced socializing?” (ha!) You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.
What Lesbian Speed Dating Participants
Say About Their Experience
(LesBiQ) Speed Dating is a unique way to meet other single lesbians in a laid back environment. All you have to do is show up! Don’t take our word for it, read what other participants have to say about their experience!
“It worked great for introverts and extroverts. The time limit eliminated the awkward departure from the conversation if it was forced or there was just not any type of connection.
“I loved the freedom to socialize with all of the women present (not just my speed date matches) looking to make a connection.”
“I like the diversity of types of people; specifically, different ages, body sizes, gender expressions, careers and backgrounds.”
“It was better than I expected!”
“It was a great way to meet single lesbians looking for romance.”
“I loved talking and interacting – on a dating site you only get to see a picture!”
“Go for it!” It’s not as intimidating as you might think.”
“It was a lot of fun and high energy.”
“No pressure or expectations.”
“Sign up for the next Speed Dating event! It’s so much fun and you get to meet so many people.”
“Do it!” “I loved the variety of women and the venue.”
“It was so much fun. Everyone is super nice and I loved all of the different conversations I had with the women.”
“Each of us really wanted to participate (no matter how hesitant we were coming in.”)
“I loved how welcome & comfortable I felt during the entire event.”
“I would recommend it to others. I loved the openness of all the women.”
“Do it!” It was a lot of fun. If nothing else, I made a lot of new friends.
“It wasn’t at all like the mid-20’s crowd I’m used to seeing on dating apps!”
Relationships are my thing. Some would say, my obsession. While I only scored an 83.75% on my own “How Lesbian Are You” test, don’t let that fool you. Since returning to school in the ’90s for my MSW, I knew exactly what I wanted to do: help lesbian couples grow love.
I am that person who has built her life around one thing: lesbian relationships and women loving women. For fun, I do things like create online quizzes at asklesbians.com, to learn more about real lesbians. Or I write books. like, “Just Ask: 1,000 Questions to Grow Your Relationship,” to give couples an easy way to communicate. (www.1000question.app) And, now that our boys are young men, my love, and my wife, Kristen, and I are growing lesbian love through Lesbian Couples Retreats and The Lesbian Roadshow throughout the U.S. in awesome destinations where our motto is, “love out loud” with Adventures in Love. You can learn more about those at lesbiancouples.co.