QUEER, BISEXUAL and LESBIAN DATING (no men)
At Lesbian Adventures in Dating (LAID), we are committed to taking the stress and struggle out of lesbian, bisexual and queer women finding one another.
TEN $2 DATES
Imagine logging on to your computer and entering the online LesBiQ Round Up Room with 20-50 other women-loving-women along with your event host, Michele O’Mara.
Once the first dating round begins, imagine being automatically transported into a private online dating room with your first date. Just the two of you, for 6 minutes of 1:1 time, where you will have the opportunity to chat and get to know her. Before you know it (and 6 minutes goes fast even in the most awkward of situations), you will be magically transported back to the Round Up Room. This will repeat several times with a minimum of 10 different dates.
OPPORTUNITY TO DEVELOP NEW FRIENDSHIPS, TOO
Throughout the event, there are also few breaks where you will be transported to Social Rooms. These are rooms of 5-10 women who are randomly selected and give you the opportunity to chat in a smaller group setting. Because our events draw a large number of women, and you are paired with the top ten women who most closely align with your dating preferences, the Social Rooms provide an opportunity to meet women you may be paired with for a 1:1 date, as well as the possibility of spending additional time with dates you would like to talk with some more.
LESBIAN ADVENTURES IN DATING (LAID) Q AND A’S
HOW IS THE DATING LINE-UP CREATED?
Your matches will be made according to the preferences you indicate on your registration. You will be matched with the top 10 women who most closely align with your stated preferences. However, we are not able to guarantee there will be ten women who match your specific age range or gender expression preferences.
AM I WELCOME IF I AM BISEXUAL, TRANS, NON-BINARY OR POLY?
Yes! Our goal is to attract a diverse group of daters of all ages so we can provide a wide variety of people with whom you can meet and interact. We do not inquire about your sexual orientation or your gender identity beyond the requirement that you self-identify as a woman and you have romantic interests in women. We do ask that you are available, whether that means single or poly.
It is up to you to share what you wish to beyond the basic expectation that participants: 1) do not self-identify as male; 2) are attracted romantically to women; and 3) identify as single or available.
HOW MANY SPEED DATES WILL I HAVE?
We will match you with the best ten dates available. If there are not ten participants who meet your preferred criteria, we will pair you with the best matches possible, to reach a total of 10 dates.
WHAT IF MY EX OR SOMEONE I DO NOT WISH TO BE PAIRED WITH IS ALSO ATTENDING?
Don’t fret. We understand the desire to avoid awkward pairings. The registration form has space to identify up to 8 people you request we NOT pair you with. We will work hard to help you avoid any uncomfortable dates!
WHAT IF I SIGN UP AND CAN'T MAKE IT?
Your registration is non-refundable. If you experience a family emergency or unavoidable obstacle, we will provide you with a credit for a future event. You will still have access to the dating app with your dating lineup, and in the event you would like to take express interest in one of your dates (despite not meeting them), you can do so in the app during the designated dating time. You never know, you may find an unexpected match!
HOW DO WE EXPRESS INTEREST IN EACH OTHER?
You will be provided a link to download our speed dating event app on your smartphone. The app will record your follow-up preferences that you enter during the event.
After each date, you will have the option to check your interest in her according to the following:
❤️ 😊 ❌
potential romance friendship no chemistry
For each woman that you indicate ANY interest in (friendship or more) who has also expressed ANY interest in you (friendship or more), the app will reveal your matches, indicate if the match if for friendship potential or romance potential, and provide you with one another’s email.
WHAT IF I AM INTERESTED IN A FRIENDSHIP WITH HER, BUT NOT ROMANCE?
For each woman that you indicate ANY interest in (friendship or more) who has also expressed ANY interest in you (friendship or more), we will provide you with one another’s contact information. This information will be available on your dating app shortly after the event ends (unless our app is not complete, then it will be 2-3 days because we will crunch the matches by hand).
If you indicate friendship 😊, and she indicates romance potential ❤️, we will still connect you, and indicate your preference as friendship. This provides you the safety to express your attractions without the risk of feeling rejected.
❤️ + ❤️ = ❤️
❤️ + 😁 = 😁
❌ + 😁/❤️ = ❌
WHAT IF I'M SUPER DUPER SHY?
Because the dates are so short (six minutes), there is limited time for conversation. Even our shyest participants have commented on how quickly the dates go! You can prepare for the event by coming up with 2-3 open-ended questions, such as: “Tell me about yourself?” Or, “How do you like to spend your free time?” Or, “How do you feel about forced socializing?” (ha!) You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.
What Lesbian Dating Participants Say About Their Experience
(LesBiQ) Speed Dating is a unique way to meet other single lesbians in a laid back environment. All you have to do is show up! Don’t take our word for it, read what other participants have to say about their experience!
“I was super nervous about the speed dating experience, but everyone on there made me feel so at ease. Even through my technical difficulties and intimidation with the technology that we would be using, I found it very enjoyable.”
“Meeting a number of women in a short amount of time I can do anything for a few minutes… (not a full awkward date if we don’t hit it off).”
“It was better than I expected!”
“This was my first time participating in speed dating. I found that it was a great way to meet several people and quickly figure out who I might click with in a low-stress situation.”
“I like that it showed me my dates for the evening I also liked that I was able to rate the ladies right there on the app.”
“I loved talking and interacting – on a dating site you only get to see a picture!”
“Go for it!” It’s not as intimidating as you might think.”
“It was a lot of fun and high energy.”
“No pressure or expectations.”
“Sign up for the next Speed Dating event! It’s so much fun and you get to meet so many people.”
“Do it!” “I loved the variety of women and the venue.”
“It was so much fun. Everyone is super nice and I loved all of the different conversations I had with the women.”
“Each of us really wanted to participate (no matter how hesitant we were coming in.”)
“I loved how welcome & comfortable I felt during the entire event.”
“I would recommend it to others. I loved the openness of all the women.”
“Do it!” It was a lot of fun. If nothing else, I made a lot of new friends.
“It wasn’t at all like the mid-20’s crowd I’m used to seeing on dating apps!”
You may also be interested in our 6-week Live Online Video e.Course.
Relationships are my thing. Some would say, my obsession. While I only scored an 83.75% on my own “How Lesbian Are You” test, don’t let that fool you. Since returning to school in the ’90s for my MSW, I knew exactly what I wanted to do: help lesbian couples grow love.
I am that person who has built her life around one thing: lesbian relationships and women loving women. For fun, I do things like create online quizzes at asklesbians.com, to learn more about real lesbians. Or I write books. like, “Just Ask: 1,000 Questions to Grow Your Relationship,” to give couples an easy way to communicate. (www.1000question.app) And, now that our boys are young men, my love, and my wife, Kristen, and I are growing lesbian love through Lesbian Couples Retreats, lesbian speed dating events, and The Lesbian Roadshow throughout the U.S. in awesome destinations where our motto is, “love out loud” with Adventures in Love. You can learn more about those at lesbiancouples.co.