Strategy 16 for Happy Lesbian Couples: Do you know what the five love languages have in common?
While there are five love languages, (Gifts, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation), they all have one thing in common – GIVING ATTENTION. When you give gifts, give attention, give time, give acts of service, or give words of affirmation, you are giving your attention.
By the way, if you have not read the Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman, I view this book as required reading for all couples, and lesbian couples are no exception! I just checked, and there are 10,652 customer book reviews with an average rating of 4.8 out of 5 stars. So, yep, it’s a good one for your happy relationship reading list. If you don’t like to read, get the audio version here and listen to it together.
I do not know of a more basic method of expressing love, than that of simply giving someone your full
attention. Your attention may simply be listening, spending time together, or holding your partner when she needs held. Or, it may involve calling to check on her when she is feeling sick, or asking her to talk about her feelings when she seems blue. Maybe you pick up a special treat from her while you are out, and bring it home. Leave her a note on her car seat if she leaves after you do. The possibilities all include the five love languages, and they are endless.
Happy lesbian couples know that attention comes in many forms, and when you intend to let your lesbian love know she’s your priority, the one you choose, and that she matters to you, be sure you offer her your gazing, smiling, dancing eyes; your open, allowing and listening ears; your laughing, loving, and kissing lips; your soothing, sexy, complementing voice; your helping, healing, loving hands; and your embracing open and accepting arms. Be present, aware, and engaged. You are what she wants. Give her more of you.
Giving someone your full attention is possibly the single most powerful way to show someone you love them. Be among the happy lesbian couples who take time to better their relationships a little step at at time. You will be sure to increase your ability to speak the five love languages, too, if you keep expanding your list of ways to give her your attention.