Learn How to Communicate Better
A practical SKILL-BUILDING CLASS for couples who strive for better, not worse.
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How to Have Better Communication in Lesbian Relationships
A Mini-Workshop for Lesbian Couples
Sunday, January 23, 2022
2-5pm ET | 1-4pm CT | 12-3pm MT | 11-2pm PT
This 3-hour mini-workshop includes multiple mini-learning-sessions, designed to systematically introduce you to the key elements of effective couples communication along with opportunities to begin practicing (privately, on mute, during the workshop) the skills being taught.
Each mini-section of the workshop will include brief Q&A sessions to address questions that arise as you put your new skills to work.
Digital downloads with course content and practice exercises will be provided by email prior to the workshop.
This workshop is not therapy and does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This is a one-time, skill-building coaching workshop on how to communicate better for lesbian couples.
YOU WILL LEARN:
- A Fail-Proof Roadmap for Effective Communication
- How to speak with more honesty and openness
- The Principles of Wholehearted Communication
- How to Be Heard (becoming hearable)
- How to Hear Her Feelings, Not her Words
- How to disagree without fighting
- The Fundamentals of Listening
- Strategies to Improve Your Understanding of Each Other
- The Transformative Power of Empathetic Validation
- Barriers to Communication and How to Overcome Them
Will We Have to Talk in Front of Other Couples?
No. All exercises are designed to be done individually or with your partner while on mute. After each principle of Wholehearted Communication is introduced, couples will be asked to put themselves on mute and engage in the related exercise. Then, couples will be asked to rejoin the session for a quick Q&A session. We will repeat this process for each layer of the Wholehearted Communication process.
Can we join the class late or leave early?
Yes. The URL for the workshop will allow you to join the call, leave the call and rejoin the call if necessary. Ideally, you will join when we start and stay until the end. However, not all schedules line up quite so perfectly, so we flex with life as we need to.
Can I access this course with a smart phone?
Yes. You can access zoom.us via a smartphone, ipad, tablet, laptop, or desktop computer. You will need access to the internet and you will also need to download the zoom app on the divide you plan to use to access class. Go to: zoom.us/download and download this on your device. At the time of the workshop, simply enter. the workshop URL in your search bar. This will take you to the live digital classroom.
Can I attend without my spouse?
Yes, if you are representing one partner of a couple, you can join the event. The limited number of spots are reserved to benefit couples. However, sometimes there are schedule conflicts, and other times partners have different learning styles, interests, and comfort. If you are in a lesbian/non-binary relationship and you wish to join without your partner, please do. Don’t be surprised if she gets curious and decides to join you. 🙂
How To Communicate Better in Your Lesbian Relationship With WHOLEHEARTED COMMUNICATION
Wholehearted Couples Communication is a relationship-strengthening strategy, designed to help couples expand your capacity to meaningfully understand and be understood by one another.
No matter how much you love her, she cannot feel or experience your love without accurately and effectively communicating it to her.
Communicating Wholeheartedly is both a skillset and a way of showing up in your relationship; it is a way of being.
As a couple’s coach specializing in lesbian relationships, Michele O’Mara, PhD, has developed a roadmap for couple’s communication, called Wholehearted Communication that incorporates the research, theories and skills developed by the following resources:
– John Gottman (The Gottman Relationship Method)
– Brene’ Brown (Courage, Vulnerability, Shame and Empathy researcher)
– Imago Theory of Relationships by Harville Hendrix
– Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) by Sue Johnson
– Communication strategies of Non-Violent Communication (NVC) by Marshall B Rosenberg
DO YOU TALK LIKE YOU LOVE HER?
Great communication is not enough to make a great relationship (it also matters what it is you feel and wish to communicate), but the strength of your relationship can not exceed your capacity to effective communicate. No matter how much you love her, your ability to convey this love requires communication skills that work.
DO YOU LISTEN LIKE YOU WANT TO KNOW HER? (NOT LIKE YOU WANT TO CHANGE HER)
Heart-opening conversations require access to our emotions. Access to our emotions require that we feel safe. When we are convinced that we are accepted, despite our differences, we can be vulnerable and open with one another. The ability to open our hearts to one another leads to Wholehearted Communication. You CAN learn to do this with patience, practice and the willingness and desire to put effort into becoming a better communicator.