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The Gottman Relationship Checkup

What is The Gottman Relationship Checkup?

The Gottman Relationship Checkup is an online tool that is comprised of 480 questions which cover five categories of importance tothe gottman relationship checkup healthy and satisfying relationships. Each partner is provided a private (and separate) link to the Checkup, and once each partner has completed the questions, a report is generated with the results of your current relationship health. This report is sent to the verified therapist with whom you are working (in this case, me).  The verified therapist will then provide the results of your assessment.




What types of couples are good candidates to do the Gottman Relationship Checkup?

All couples can benefit from the Gottman Relationship Checkup. This tool does not replace therapy, and it is designed to assist functional couples (not couples in crisis), in deepening their understanding of existing relationships strengths and challenges.

  • Healthy couples who are hoping to stay that way.  This option is for healthy couples such as those considering a commitment  or marriage, or couples who feel good about their relationship but know that it’s important to continue to prevent issues from surfacting.

This path is designed to offer couples a basic relationship health checkup.  You can validate that “Yes! Our relationship is strong and on the right track!” And, like most healthy couples, you will learn more about what could make your already good relationship even better.

  • For couples who are aware that their relationship is not functioning as well as they would like, yet they are not entirely clear about what isn’t working, the Gottman Relationship Checkup is a great way to get a very detailed overview of your relationship, as well as a detailed roadmap of where to begin focusing your efforts to improve your relationship.  You will receive separate (private) reports for each partner with specific steps to get you moving in the direction of a “better us,” as well as a relationship overview for you to explore as a couple.



How much does the Gottman Relationship Checkup Cost?

The cost of the Relationship Checkup with Michele O’Mara, PhD is $145.00.  Included in this is the cost of the assessment, and two separate Relationship Checkup Reports will be provided to each partner.  One report will provide a general relationship overview and interpretation of the checkup results.  This will include specific observations about what is working and what needs attention, as well as suggestions and strategies for how to begin doing that work together.  Separately, each partner will receive a second report (both pdf files) about his or her individual strengths and challenges, along with specific suggestions to assist each partner in taking personal steps toward a healthier relationship.

How long does it take to complete the assessment?

Depending on the complexity of your relationship issues, and whether or not you choose to provide additional comments, this typically takes from one to two hours to complete.

If I am unable to complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup all at once, will the program save my information for the next time I login?

Yes! You can login multiple times to complete your survey.  The program will save your confidential information in your password-protected login area.

Will my answers be seen by my partner?

No.  You will not have access to one another’s answers unless you decide to share your passwords.  This is discouraged, however, because it can diminish the effectiveness of the assessment.  (It’s important that you answer the questions knowing that no one but you and the therapist will see them).

Do all questions have to be answered?

Yes.  There are also areas for additional comment if you wish to expand on your answer.

Who created this tool?

Dr. John Gottman and Julie Gottman.  Dr. John Gottman is a clinical psychologist who has completed more than 40 years of research on relationships and couples. Dr. Julie Gottman is a clinical psychologist who has been practicing these techniques with couples in various settings.