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Learn Essential Communication

Skills for Lesbian Couples

in 6 Weeks

The Art of Wholehearted Communication by Michele O’Mara, LCSW, PhD

“My wife and I feel like we’ve made more progress taking your course than 3 years of couples counseling.”


– Course Participant

Let’s face it, intimate, honest, and accurate communication skills are not intuitive, they are learned.

If you struggle to find the words to say what you mean or find yourself comin’ into a conversation a little too hot, you are not alone.

Communication is not as simple as finding the right words to convey what you think and feel; it is a full-body, wholehearted experience that requires self-awareness, emotional regulation, and a conscious intent to know and be known. 

But don’t fret. You, too, can learn to communicate effectively!

Whether you are a single lesbian, hoping to get your next relationship right, or you are currently partnered and recognize it’s time to up your communication game, we’ve got you.

Intimate communication skills (aka Wholehearted Communication) is a dance between two nervous systems. For the dance of communication to be effective, it requires conscious awareness of how you are feeling and what you need. With greater self-awareness and the skills to communicate more effectively, you can develop a dance of interaction that creates genuine, intimate connections.  

Wholehearted Communication Helps You:

  • Identify your needs more accurately
  • Communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs more effectively
  • Reduce misunderstandings
  • Create more enjoyment and less negativity
  • Say what you mean and mean what you say

The sessions show us how this whole world of our nervous systems has influenced our lives in so many ways that were completely hidden to us, in spite of the fact that we’ve both been in counselling and studied things like non-violent communication for years! We just want to say how much we both appreciate the knowledge you brought together for this course and, more importantly, for the way you delivered it.

– Bonnie and Natasha, Canada

Most lesbian couples do not need counseling, they need better communication skills.

Effective communication is a skill, and one that most of us are never taught.

In session after session, lesbian couples express frustration with their negative patterns of communication that keep them looping in circles and misunderstanding one another. This cycle becomes discouraging and leads to a feeling of hopelessness. Often, one partner expresses her frustration loudly, repeatedly, and with a lot of passion, while the other tends to withdraw, retreat and go silent. This leaves one partner feeling rejected, unheard, and unimportant and the other feeling overwhelmed, silenced, and numb. Both partners feel powerless. 

If this is you, there is a way out of this negative loop.

What You Will Learn in This Course


Michele is an excellent coach and facilitator. Not only is the material helpful but she “walks her talk” (demonstrated with her partner). I’d recommend this course to anyone. It’s a user-friendly and practical course. Her style is also engaging: she has a great sense of humor, has sound applications, and provides a safe space.

– Susan L, North Carolina



It was amazing!

So insightful and especially validating to see that we’re not the only ones who struggle the way we do with communication, don’t change your personable and welcoming demeanor.


– K&M, Huntsville, AL



6) THURSDAYS  7:00 pm – 8:00 pm EST

6 pm CT | 5 pm MT | 4 pm PT

JUNE 15, 22, 29

JULY 6, 13, 20

Talking seems to worsen things, so you don’t talk as much.

Everything seems more fragile, sensitive, explosive, and distant. 

 You miss her. You wonder if she misses you, too. Your emotions dance between anger and sadness, resentment and guilt, frustration, and longing.

 Confusion replaces confidence. Sensitivity replaces understanding.

 The uncertainty is painful, scary and it leaves you feeling unsure of what to do.

 And that’s why you’re here, reading about lesbian relationship communication.   Right?

 You want to feel the way you did when you first fell in love with her. 

 The louder she gets, the quieter you become; or the quieter you become, the louder she gets. 

 Either way, it’s not working. 

 You’ve tried weekly counseling. Maybe you’ve been to a couple of different counselors, finding it hard to click with them. 

 You leave sessions more frustrated than you felt going into them. Yet, you keep going because at least there’s some communication, even if it’s not great.  

 Misunderstandings are happening more often. 

 Why not try something new?  Develop Wholehearted Communication Skills.

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