FOR COUPLES ON THE BRINK OF SEPARATION OR DIVORCE
If you or your spouse / significant other are considering a divorce/separation, it can be a confusing and very painful experience. Arriving at a decision about whether or not to stay together can be complicated and overwhelming. Unfortunately, traditional counseling is not an effective tool to address this particular dilemma.
However, Discernment Counseling is exactly the right tool for this situation. Discernment Counseling provides
In traditional marriage counseling, both partners are interested in doing the work of making the relationship grow. In Discernment Counseling partners have different ideas about whether or not the relationship is workable. This is referred to as a mixed-agenda marriage. One partner wants to make the relationship work (called the “leaning in” partner,” and the other partner is unsure, or feeling like exiting the relationship (this is called “leaning out”).
It is the role of the counselor or coach to help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.
Discernment Counseling is short-
Three paths are considered as you explore the options for your relationship:
1. Continue your relationship as it is, without a clear resolution to the issues you may be having.
2. Separate or divorce.
3. Commit to ongoing couples counseling in order to work through relationship issues, with divorce taken off of the table.
There are no good guys or bad guys in discernment counseling. There are only people who are
A better understanding of your own contributions to what is working and what is not working, as well as an exploration of your reasons to restore your marriage to health, or to not restore your marriage to health, will be explored individually.