Loving Deeply Without Losing Yourself

Some of the most loving people I know are also the most tired. They sense a mood shift from across the room, smooth every ruffled feather, and can tell you exactly how their partner feels. Ask how they feel, and they need a minute.

You might recognize yourself if:

• You say yes before checking whether you want to.
• Your mood follows your partner’s like thunder follows lightening
• Resting feels selfish when someone you love is struggling, working, or otherwise not resting.
• “I’m fine” is your first language.

Codependency usually starts as a skill that once served you well. Keeping the peace, staying close, holding things together. Somewhere along the way, it started working overtime without asking for a day off.

This free quiz helps you see where your generosity is healthy and where it’s quietly costing you. It takes about 2 minutes, your answers stay private, and you’ll get your results right away. It won’t diagnose you, and it won’t tell your partner.