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Uhaul Lesbians and their Dating Behavior

Uhaul Lesbians Dating Behavior This is a quick summary of the feedback for our survey on how quickly lesbians move from dating to committing, to see if there is any merit to the Uhaul joke, about "what does a lesbian bring on a second date?" ... "A u-haul." We had 404...

Lesbian Scissoring, Tribadism, or Oral Sex: What do gay women like?

Lesbian Scissoring, Tribadism, or Oral Sex:  What do lesbians like most? Of all the various sexual actvities between women, scissoring seems to get the most attention. It is increasingly visible in movies such as Blue Is the Warmest Color, Handmaiden, and Orange is...

Lesbian Bed Death Meaning and History

Lesbian Bed Death Meaning and History Is this really a thing for lesbian couples?Where it all started In 1983, a research study was published by Pepper Schwartz and Phillip Blumstein, that identified lesbian couples as the least sexual couple pairing. This research...

10 Lesbian Couple Goals for Happy Lesbian Relationships

10 Happy Lesbian Couple Goals   Do you know the top 10  Lesbian Couple Goals to strive for in your relationship? Whether you are in your first lesbian relationship or the same one you've been in for the past decade, this list of 10 habits of happy lesbian couples...

Survey Results: Most Important Lesbian Relationship Goals

Lesbian Relationship Goals   When it comes to lesbian relationship goals, our survey says that above all else, feeling loved is most important. In a very brief, no-nonsense survey on asklesbians.com, lesbians were asked not only about how important it is to feel...

Quick Reference Guide to Different Types of Lesbians

There are many types of lesbians, what's your lesbian style? When asked, " What kind of lesbian am I? , " my answer is, "the kind that likes women."  I get it. It is human nature to seek order and understanding through labels and classification systems. Interestingly,...

Three Essential Lesbian Relationship Goals for Lesbian Couples

THREE ESSENTIAL LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP GOALS FOR LESBIAN COUPLES Start your relationship on the right foot with these three essential lesbian relationship goals. Much of what we learn in relationships comes from trial and error. However, there are also some great...

The Secret to New Year’s Resolutions that Last Longer than A Diet

The Secret to Creating New Year’s Resolutions that Last Longer than A Diet   New Year’s Resolutions are a fancy way of committing to change. Unfortunately, resolutions are a lot like diets. They are well-intended, often very prescribed or specific, and they are...

No Common Interests in Relationships

No Common Interests in Relationships? Sometimes couples express concern about having no common interests in relationships with their partners. Last week, I visited two large arenas in Texas (AT&T Center and Toyota Center) where I paid ten times more for my stadium...

Relationship Advice for Lesbian Couples for Five Common Issues

Relationship Advice for Lesbian Couples Lesbian couples are different in many ways from their heterosexual and gay male couple peers. However, lesbian couples are not particularly different from one another. There are some very common issues among female pairings, and...

Why You Find Yourself Saying What You Don’t Mean

Do you ever find yourself saying what you don't mean?   Have you ever noticed that when we are most afraid of getting emotionally hurt, our natural instinct is to behave in ways that actually make things worse, not better? When we feel we are being blamed, our...

Imago Therapy and my Imago Match

Because I am certified to provide imago therapy, and I help couples unravel how they become an imago match when a couple comes to me for help with their relationship, one of the first things I ask is, "What did you have for dinner last night?" It is amazing how much I...

36 Questions To Fall in Love went viral, but does it work?

36 Questions To Fall in Love went viral, but does it work? By now you have probably heard that there are 36 questions to fall in love with anyone. This idea was given a public platform January 9, 2015, in a New York Times article titled, To Fall in Love with...

The 36 Questions Challenge

The 36 Questions Challenge The 36 Questions Challenge is an invitation to connect to someone... to anyone.  These are the same 36 Questions that went viral in 2015 after Mandy Len Catron shared a story about how her and her now boyfriend, used these 36 questions as an...

Break up Advice: Dating Again, After a Breakup

When should I start dating again, after a breakup? When a relationship ends, one of two things is typically happening.  One, you are being spared something (such as a life with someone who is not well-suited to be your partner); or you are being prepared for something...

How House Shopping is Like Lesbian Dating, Or Not

Lesbian Dating and House Shopping One of the things I love to do in my spare time is peruse new houses on the market, visit new model homes, and drive through new and different neighborhoods.  And of course I also enjoy HGTV house shows. Lately I started thinking...

5 More Love Languages

   Five More Love Languages Reflections by Michele O'Mara I consider the five love languages, described by Gary Chapman in his book, The Five Love Languages, to be good information for all couples. Yet, something is missing. Read on to learn about five more...

11 Erogenous Zones – Tips for Lesbian Sex

Tips for Lesbian Sex: 11 Erogenous Zones for Women that Every Lesbian Couple Must Explore If you are a lesbian couple interested in tips for lesbian sex, or simply sexually active with a woman, this information about erogenous zones is a must read for you. Let's start...