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Loving Her Without Losing Yourself: Power Struggles and Boundaries

Loving Her Without Losing Yourself: Navigating Identity, Boundaries and Power Struggles in Lesbian RelationshipsA relationship is an investment that requires us to know ourselves well. If we don't have a clear understanding of who we are, what we need, and where we...

Playdates vs Lesbian Date Night

Date nights have never been our thing. Nor are we much of a dinner and a movie kind of couple. Though, last night was an exception.  We saw Where the Crawdads Sing – and it was a dinner-dinner-Witherspoon-winner!  Go. For some couples, there would be no date without...

10 Reasons We Need Lesbian Couple Friends

10 Reasons We Need Lesbian Couple Friends On the first Saturday of each month, my wife Kristen and I go to the same breakfast spot near the courthouse where we were married. We have a standing date with our friends at 8:00 am. The first couple to arrive grabs our...

Disappointment: The One Thing That Every Couple Experiences

Disappointment: The One Thing That Every Couple ExperiencesDisappointment is one thing that every couple experiences who falls deeply in love. It is inevitable. Inescapable.  How you respond will make or break your relationship. Falling in love is easy. Rising in love...

Lesbian Divorce

MY LESBIAN DIVORCE    I was having a conversation with a friend recently, and she shared with me news that a mutual acquaintance of ours was in the process of a messy divorce.  I didn't know them well.  Certainly not well enough to know what their struggles are,...

Those F*cking Dykes

Those F*cking Dykes   Last Sunday was nearly perfect. I'm talking, the kind of day that felt like the universe was handing out free hugs in the form of a sunlit breezy zippety-do-da day. Except for one thing. One big, unbelievable thing. It was early afternoon,...

Be Yourself: Why is this harder than it sounds?

Be Yourself: Why is this harder than it sounds? On a recent walk, I rounded the corner in a neighboring hood, and to my surprise, I came across the most beautiful sight.  Amazing landscaping?  No. Gorgeous new house? Nope. A fancy car? Uhn uh. Don't worry if that's...

Words of Affirmation: I need to hear it

Words of Affirmation: I Need to Hear It There are five languages of love that were made popular by author, Gary Chapman in 1992. The other four languages are touch, acts of service, quality time, and gifts. I am not convinced these are the only languages of love...

Imago Therapy Training Online with Michele O’Mara, PhD

Imago Therapy Training Online: What is it? Imago Therapy is one of several counseling approaches to couples seeking help for their relationships. This approach is designed to assist partners in identifying how their unconscious mind has been influenced by their unique...

Lesbian Retreats for LGBT Queer Women Who Love Women

Maintaining a happy and healthy lesbian relationship takes effort, but the benefits of putting in the work for women who love women are immeasurable. One resource that can help you strengthen your connection with your partner is a lesbian retreat. Lesbian retreats...

Ten Types of Relationship Betrayals

Infidelity is Not the Only Betrayal in Relationships""I have never understood the mindset that there is a game-winning or game-losing shot. This, to me, renders the entire rest of the game useless, and unimportant. If the star player has made a record breaking, 62...

Lesbian Couples Quickies: Validation, Not Education

LESBIAN COUPLES QUICKIES:  VALIDATION, NOT EDUCATION Couples Quickies #1 When your girl expresses a concern, need or frustration in her life (not about you), do not mistake this as her request for you to fix the situation, or fix her. If you are someone who often...

A Feel Good Coming Out to Parents Story

 Coming Out to Parents       On Christmas Eve, 1988, I was home from college for winter break.  Like every other Christmas Eve, I was gathering inspiration and ideas to begin my holiday shopping.  Yes, begin.  My mom turned to me and asked, "How...

#1 Desire in Lesbian Relationships is to Feel Loved

 LESBIANS #1 DESIRE IN RELATIONSHIPS IS TO FEEL LOVED Twenty-four lesbians (20 cis, 1 trans-female, 3 non-binary) responded to this informal survey where they rated 14 aspects of being in a relationship in order of importance. Admittedly,I have a thing for surveys. I...

Lesbians Dogs and Divorces

Lesbians Dogs: Who gets Custody if There's a Breakup   Survey Visits: 389 Survey’s Completed: 159 The lesbians dogs custody survey was reader-suggested. For this great topic, we are looking at the relationship between lesbians and their dogs.  For starters, the...

Do you have a lesbian date? How many dates before you commit?

Should I commit after one lesbian date? Survey visits: 404  Completed  the lesbian date survey:  105  One of the most common jokes about lesbians, ever, is:  Question: What does a lesbian bring on their second date?  Answer: A U-HaulResearchers have come up with terms...