The Lesbian Drama Triangle (Karpman)
The Lesbian Drama Triangle (Karpman)In the 1960’s Stephen Karpman developed a framework to understand and change negative behavior patterns in relationships called The Drama Triangle. This is a helpful way to begin examining how you show up in your relationship, which...
Loving Her Without Losing Yourself: Power Struggles and Boundaries
Loving Her Without Losing Yourself: Navigating Identity, Boundaries and Power Struggles in Lesbian RelationshipsA relationship is an investment that requires us to know ourselves well. If we don't have a clear understanding of who we are, what we need, and where we...
Playdates vs Lesbian Date Night
Date nights have never been our thing. Nor are we much of a dinner and a movie kind of couple. Though, last night was an exception. We saw Where the Crawdads Sing – and it was a dinner-dinner-Witherspoon-winner! Go. For some couples, there would be no date without...
10 Reasons We Need Lesbian Couple Friends
10 Reasons We Need Lesbian Couple Friends On the first Saturday of each month, my wife Kristen and I go to the same breakfast spot near the courthouse where we were married. We have a standing date with our friends at 8:00 am. The first couple to arrive grabs our...
Disappointment: The One Thing That Every Couple Experiences
Disappointment: The One Thing That Every Couple ExperiencesDisappointment is one thing that every couple experiences who falls deeply in love. It is inevitable. Inescapable. How you respond will make or break your relationship. Falling in love is easy. Rising in love...
Lesbian Divorce
MY LESBIAN DIVORCE I was having a conversation with a friend recently, and she shared with me news that a mutual acquaintance of ours was in the process of a messy divorce. I didn't know them well. Certainly not well enough to know what their struggles are,...
Those F*cking Dykes
Those F*cking Dykes Last Sunday was nearly perfect. I'm talking, the kind of day that felt like the universe was handing out free hugs in the form of a sunlit breezy zippety-do-da day. Except for one thing. One big, unbelievable thing. It was early afternoon,...
Be Yourself: Why is this harder than it sounds?
Be Yourself: Why is this harder than it sounds? On a recent walk, I rounded the corner in a neighboring hood, and to my surprise, I came across the most beautiful sight. Amazing landscaping? No. Gorgeous new house? Nope. A fancy car? Uhn uh. Don't worry if that's...
Words of Affirmation: I need to hear it
Words of Affirmation: I Need to Hear It There are five languages of love that were made popular by author, Gary Chapman in 1992. The other four languages are touch, acts of service, quality time, and gifts. I am not convinced these are the only languages of love...
Benefits of Premarital Counseling Online | Lesbian Marriage Preparation
ONLINE PREMARITAL COUNSELING SPECIFICALLY FOR LESBIAN COUPLESFalling in love is the easy part. Growing love in the context of a long-term, committed relationship, well, that takes a bit of work. That's why it is a good idea to get a thorough relationship checkup...
Imago Therapy Training Online with Michele O’Mara, PhD
Imago Therapy Training Online: What is it? Imago Therapy is one of several counseling approaches to couples seeking help for their relationships. This approach is designed to assist partners in identifying how their unconscious mind has been influenced by their unique...
Lesbian Retreats for LGBT Queer Women Who Love Women
Maintaining a happy and healthy lesbian relationship takes effort, but the benefits of putting in the work for women who love women are immeasurable. One resource that can help you strengthen your connection with your partner is a lesbian retreat. Lesbian retreats...
Access to Her Inner World with Open Communication | Couples Quickies #2
Do you have access to her inner world? Open Communication vs. Closed Communication Couple's Quickie #2There are two types of communication: open-door and closed-door. Open-door communication is a direct and vulnerable sharing of your feelings, which gives the...
Ten Types of Relationship Betrayals
Infidelity is Not the Only Betrayal in Relationships""I have never understood the mindset that there is a game-winning or game-losing shot. This, to me, renders the entire rest of the game useless, and unimportant. If the star player has made a record breaking, 62...
Lesbian Couples Quickies: Validation, Not Education
LESBIAN COUPLES QUICKIES: VALIDATION, NOT EDUCATION Couples Quickies #1 When your girl expresses a concern, need or frustration in her life (not about you), do not mistake this as her request for you to fix the situation, or fix her. If you are someone who often...
A Feel Good Coming Out to Parents Story
Coming Out to Parents On Christmas Eve, 1988, I was home from college for winter break. Like every other Christmas Eve, I was gathering inspiration and ideas to begin my holiday shopping. Yes, begin. My mom turned to me and asked, "How...
When to end a relationship Psychology today Counselor says Do This First
When to end a relationship? Psychology today Counselor says Do These 10 Things Before You Breakup Great relationships require hard work, useful information, and a lot of discipline. If you are wondering whether you should stay or go, read these 10 steps to do before...
Lesbians and Dog Custody: What happens to the dog when lesbians break up?
Lesbians and Dogs: Shared Custody With Ex’s? Survey Visits: 389 Survey’s Completed: 159 The lesbians and dogs custody survey was reader-suggested. For this great topic, we are looking at the relationship between lesbians and their dogs. For starters, the...
#1 Desire in Lesbian Relationships is to Feel Loved
LESBIANS #1 DESIRE IN RELATIONSHIPS IS TO FEEL LOVED Twenty-four lesbians (20 cis, 1 trans-female, 3 non-binary) responded to this informal survey where they rated 14 aspects of being in a relationship in order of importance. Admittedly,I have a thing for surveys. I...
Lesbians Dogs and Divorces
Lesbians Dogs: Who gets Custody if There's a Breakup Survey Visits: 389 Survey’s Completed: 159 The lesbians dogs custody survey was reader-suggested. For this great topic, we are looking at the relationship between lesbians and their dogs. For starters, the...