Do you want to glance inside the wonderful world of lesbians?

At ASK LESBIANS, we work to ease the mystery surrouask lesbiansnding what it means to be a lesbian. Despite marriage rights for gays and lesbians everywhere are many communities who still struggle to accept same-sex relationships. This many lack of acceptance, particularly in smaller more remote communities, makes it difficult for women questioning their sexual orientation to fully understand what it means to be a lesbian, beyond the stereotypes in the media. Even when you know a handful of lesbians, it is sometimes difficult to get a good sense about the variety among lesbians in the world at large.

Our ASK LESBIAN surveys are designed to bring you real information about real lesbians. We do this by creating random surveys on a variety of topics, and then we invite lesbians to answer the questions. We set a minimum response of 100 completed surveys before we publish the results, in an effort to create a wide sampling of responses.

Through these surveys, it is my hope to create an expanded vision of the many, varied types of lovely, creative, interesting women in the world that happen to also be lesbian.  This is an information-gathering adventure that is designed to collect data from real live lesbians about real life issues.  We create short surveys (4-6 questions each) on topics related to life as a lesbian.

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The survey inforation collected via is an informal collection of responses from self-identified lesbians who have volunteered to provide their responses based on their personal experiences. All published surveys are based on the responses of a minimum of 100 women.

Michele O’Mara, LCSW, Ph.D., that's me. Third-person "about me's" are too impersonal. It's like saying, "You are loved," when what I really mean is, "I love you." Relationships are my thing. Some would say, my obsession. While I only scored an 83.75% on my own "How Lesbian Are You" test,  don't let that fool you. Since returning to school in the'90s for my MSW, I knew exactly what I wanted to do: help lesbian couples grow love. While my fantasy to be in the WNBA, and my dream of joining the Peace Corp, or my desire to have twelve children, has faded with time, my fixation on helping lesbians grow love remains. I am that person who has built her life around one thing: lesbian relationships. For fun, I do things like create online quiz's at, to learn more about real lesbians. Or I write books. like, "Just Ask: 1,000 Questions to Grow Your Relationship," to give couples an easy way to communicate. (Shameless plug - you can get this on Kindle on Amazon, as well as an app on Itunes /Google play). And, now that our boys are young men, my love, and my wife, Kristen, and I are growing lesbian love through Lesbian Couples Retreats throughout the U.S. in awesome destinations where our motto is, "love out loud" with Adventures in Love.  You can learn more about those at