mom. wife. coach. therapist. lesbian. happy camper

I hold a PhD in Clinical Sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists, a Masters of Social Work from Indiana University-Purdue University, and I am a Certified Imago Therapist. My dissertation was on the Correlation of Sexual Frequency and Relationship Satisfaction among Lesbians. I am specialized in the care of lesbian couples, especially, but all couples in general. I am also a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), and I have been specializing in the care of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender folks since 1994. Many heterosexual couples and individuals will write me asking if I also work with heterosexuals. The answer is YES, I do work with heterosexuals too!


This is where lesbian couples come to get the insight and skills you need to put your relationship on track and make sure it stays on track. My goal is to help both of you FEEL the way you want to feel in your most important relationship. How we feel is what moves us toward our partner when it’s good, and what moves us away from each other when it’s not good. Relationship services include premarital or marriage preparation counseling, couples therapy, affair recovery or other traumatic relationship events in need of repair, discernment counseling to decide whether to stay or leave the relationship and uncoupling counseling to support you in a kind and intentional exit from your relationship.


As a therapist with two decades of experience in gender care, I am available to provide assessment and referral letters for hormone replacement therapy (HRT), vaginoplasty (SRS / GRS), phalloplasty/bottom surgery, and chest surgery or top surgery. In addition to these services, I also offer couples counselling, gender clarification for those experiencing confusion about cross-dressing behaviour, gender identity concerns, and support in coming out or transitioning. Whatever your gender concerns, you are safe here.


This is a one-of-a-kind experience designed specifically for lesbian couples by an expert specialist in the field of lesbian relationship coaching. Having completed her dissertation on lesbian sexuality, along with her Imago Certification and Gottman Method training, Dr. O’Mara is a leader in the field of lesbian relationships.  All of her destination retreats are designed specifically for lesbian couples, and no two retreats are the same. Content for each retreat is custom made to tailor to the needs of the couples who are particpating, which makes it desirable to attend any and all of the retreat experiences, no matter what your relationship status and needs are.


Imago Therapy and my Imago Match

Because I am certified to provide imago therapy, and I help couples unravel how they become an imago match when a couple comes to me for help with their relationship, one of the first things I ask is, "What did you have for dinner last night?"...

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Getting a HRT Referral Letter

Getting an HRT Referral Letter Once you decide to take the step to begin medically supervised HRT, getting an HRT referral letter is necessary. The Standards of Care is the primary guide for professionals working with transsexual, transgender, and gender nonconforming...

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12 To-Do’s for a Better Year

Twelve To Do's for a better year. ____Make a list of 100 things that bring me joy.____Tell (email, call, write) 3 people and thank them for being them.____Learn how to train my mind to work for me, not against me.      (Sign up for The Law of Attraction class /...

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While I am certified and trained to provide traditional psychotherapy, my philosophy is more aligned with the tenants of coaching. In a coaching relationship, I am not required to assess and diagnose, and my goal is to connect and facilitate a meaningful understanding of who you are, and where you want to be in your life. I am grateful when I can walk along side my clients as they move in the direction of their truth. I love to see people (even strangers) experience peace and happiness in life; I’m funny like that.


One of my favorite things to do is to help people gather and learn. I’m energized and inspired in the company of like minded, happy, curious, people who enjoy learning, laughing, and experiencing new friendships and personal growth. Toward this end, I have created a series of opportunities for this to happen. These are twelve-week classes that meet weekly and vary in focus but all have in common the desire to improve some aspect of your life, with intention, through the shared enthusiasm of new friends and classmates.
Michele O’Mara, PhD, LCSW
2680 E Main Street, Suite 121
Plainfield, IN 46168
P. 317.517.0065
f. 866.540.9013